The importance of being congruent

September 21, 2008 | article by Ken Thompson in Think Differently (31)

One of the key lessons from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is the importance of being congruent. If you don't really believe what you are saying your incongruence will "leak" to your audience.

The town of Harmony

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It is important to do as you say and say as you do.

Congruence (according to the NLP Dictionary)

"When all of a person's internal beliefs, strategies, and behaviours are fully in agreement and oriented toward securing a desired outcome. Words, voice and body language - give the same message".

I have been at a number of events recently where the participants were making statements which were at clear odds with their behaviour, yet their non verbals indicated congruency, which must mean that despite the obvious evidence of their behaviour they believed that they were behaving differently. Yet another example of how we all live in our own, and sometimes very different, worlds.

And a point to ponder, apart from our individual takes on the world, is there also a real world our there independent of our observations?

Each Think Differently is a short challenge to encourage us that there are always differently ways of framing any situation and is brought to www.bioteams.com by Peter Fryer author of the Trojan Mice blog.

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